Questions and answers

• You need to constantly adapt to your partner's mood to avoid angering or "burning out."

• You feel the tension at home – the air is thick, any little thing can "detonate" your partner.

• Your partner denies his aggression, but is visibly seething with anger – he blames you for exaggerating or provoking him.

• He manipulates you, makes you feel guilty, makes you doubt yourself.

• You notice that you feel ashamed about what's happening at home and try to hide it from others.

• You feel like you need to change, that you are “too emotional” or “not good enough.”

• Your partner makes hidden threats, for example, demonstratively sharpening a knife and placing it on the table while looking you in the eye.

• Your partner threatens to hurt your pet because you "don't know how to behave."

• Your partner easily turns from aggressor to victim, feels sorry for themselves, and you feel sorry for them too;

• After an episode of violence, there is a "honeymoon" - the partner becomes caring, gives flowers, promises to never behave like that again... until next time.

• Your partner controls your income or prevents you from working.

• Your partner doesn't let you make financial decisions or threatens to punish you financially, doesn't give you money.

• You feel that you are financially dependent on him and that you won't be able to cope without him.

• The partner throws things, breaks furniture, physically attacks, hits, strangles, pushes.

• Your partner's anger seems unpredictable, and a small thing is enough to start a fight.

• You try to avoid physical confrontation, but it doesn't help.

• He forces you to have sex when you don't want to.

• Dissent is ignored, manipulated, or punished.

• You feel guilty when you refuse.

• You often ask yourself, “What am I doing wrong?” or “How can I change this?”

• You feel like you're alone, have nowhere to go, and it's better to settle than to try to survive alone.

• You keep quiet about the violence, tell your friends and colleagues made-up stories about the bruises, and hide the truth.

More information: For victims of violence